MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER, AUTHOR, AND LIFE COACH
MAGIC IMAGE HOLLYWOOD MAGAZINE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY OF INTERVIEWING MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER, AUTHOR, AND LIFE COACH VALE’SSA WINSLOW, SHE OPENED HER HEART TO US AND TALKED ABOUT HER CAREER AND PROJECTS; LET’S SEE WHAT SHE IS ALL ABOUT…
MIHM-Tell us a little bit about you, where are you from and what inspired you to pursue a career as an author, life coach and motivational speaker?
VW- A little bit about me. . .”Ordinary is not in my DNA!” I was born in Greenville, Mississippi and now reside in San Antonio, Texas. As a little girl I often knew I would tell my story, I just didn’t know how and to what degree.
I was raised by my biological mother and stepfather until the age of seven. There was a lot of dysfunction in our family since my mother married a very abusive man. I witnessed him hitting my mother as if she were in a Mike Tyson fight and would see her weeping afterwards while looking into the mirror with a badly bruised face.
But through the lens of a child, I thought that was normal behavior because that was all I knew. This abuse happened daily and I became a scared little girl witnessing my mother being beaten and never knowing if I would be next. Often I would just close my door and place the pillow over my head and ears so I couldn’t hear the curses and screams.
All I could do was pray and cry out to heaven. “God please, please…I’m begging you, God, I don’t want to live here any more. Please find me and my brother another place to live.” I would often pray to God every night and cry myself to sleep with my teddy bears.
Then one morning as I awoke I saw my mother in a corner rocking and babbling, still wearing her bed clothes. Her eyes met mine as if we were both strangers to each other. I knew instantly that something was terribly wrong with her.
God’s saving grace became our grandmother Helen Marie Winslow. She was everything we needed and longed for in a mother. She taught me how to be a prim, proper, responsible, and respectful young lady. But so much of that abuse affected me so severely.
Now I am a beacon of light to transform lives as an indie author, life coach, and motivational speaker. A whisper from God spoke to my spirit in 2016 and said, “You are ready!”
MIHM-Tell us about your nonprofit Inspire 2b Transformed, LLC
VW- CEO/Founder of inspire 2b Transformed, LLC programs work with youth of all ages who are exhibiting behavioral and/or emotional problems of varying degrees. All programs work with the youth and their families to help set and attain goals and get them back on track for a successful future.
Inspired 2b Transformed will also provide at-risk youth with leadership training, work-based mentoring, and youth entrepreneur workshops as well as basic education, competency classes, tutoring, and recreational activities.
MIHM-You were working for the Air force, tell us about that experience.
VW- My military experience gave me the skills that empowered me to become a successful businesswoman. Humility, trust, integrity, and loyalty are highly respected along with the ability to speak with authority. These were all skills I embraced in my military career.
MIHM- Define what success means to you?
VW- Success is leaving excuses at the door and facing hard work with determination and self-sacrifice.
MIHM -You have been featured on Ms. Entrepreneur Role Model Search Live program: “Rise Above,” as a powerful woman in San Antonio, tell us about it
VW- I was featured as an entrepreneur having the heart and spirit of a lion. I am one of many who has faced trauma and abuse yet I rose above through faith, resilience, and courage.
MIHM- You wrote and published your first book entitled, “Rape the Silencer”, tell us about it.
VW- I’ve stared into the face of evil and succumbed to it. Sadistic forces abused me, beat me,
and raped me. I questioned God and his plan for my life.
It felt as though the sun hid behind a cloud my entire life. The sun shone on others, but not on me. It seemed that the wind called all his friends–hell, storm, thunder, and tornado–to join in the assault on my life. As a child, those who should have been my sun and my light hid behind a cloud. Or so I thought!
By wrapping a protective shield of emotions around my body, I found my mode of survival. I gripped it tighter and tighter as the winds of my youth blew at me. These winds shivered my soul. When you read me, you shall find me!
Barnes and Noble Website: Rape The Silencer, Good Girls Don’t Tell Until Now and Work the Book
Amazon: Rape The Silencer, Good Girls Don’t Tell Until Now and Work the Book
Kindle: Rape the Silencer, Good Girls Don’t Tell Until Now and Work the Book
“It is an assault on the mind of an innocent child to witness any kind of abuse and have no protector in reach.
Yet it is an entirely different experience for that child to grow up, start dating, fall in love, start a family, and relive more abuse that forces silence. It became the way of her life. Indie Author Vale’ssa Winslow’s good girl is telling her truth and horror story of domestic violence here with a heroine’s courage that violates every gag order the monstrous enemies of her life war issued against her!
“Rape the Silencer. . .” will take you into the stormy-weathered mindset of that good girl who fearfully and repeatedly stared into the souls of evil men who were like monsters in her life. Winslow shines a light on their gritty silhouettes in a story that can shatter haunting reflections in the marred mirrors of surviving souls.” Tracey Bond, Pullpenz, Beverly Hills, CA
MIHM -Who have been your biggest mentors in your career?
VW- My biggest mentors in my careerwere Brenda Massey and my cousin Tommothy Landrum, who are both military veterans. They steered me in the right direction to maximize my potential throughout my military career. I am truly grateful to have them in my life!
MIHM -What other projects are you working on right now?
VW- Producing a documentary on Rape based on my books which are sponsored by Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and Kindle. Entitled, “Rape the Silencer, Good Girls Don’t Tell Until Now,” to be released this fall.
MIHM – You were chosen to serve as a judge for the Miss South Texas event 2018, tell us about it
VW- I was honored to be selected as Judge #3 for Miss South Texas 2018, the official preliminary to the Miss Texas and Miss America Scholarship Competitions.